GET OVER YOURSELF

You're Worth It

“Nobody likes me.”
“I don’t get anything right.”
“If I’m so difficult, maybe we shouldn’t be friends!”

If you’ve said one of the above statements chances are—you felt truly, sincerely, whole-heartedly sorry for yourself.  I know from my own experience, when I fell into that trap I grew highly resentful.  Anger seethed from my pours—I don’t even know if that’s possible, but it did.

When my pity-framed words didn’t invoke instant affection and attention, I felt like throwing every soul (minus the dog) into traffic.

Tragically, to my great bewilderment, not only didn’t I find the much-anticipated sympathy of my audience, but rather resentment seemed to take its place.

Maybe you’re smarter than I had been.  Maybe you understand why calling myself worthless insulted the ones who demonstrated otherwise.

     -Mom and dad didn’t want to feel like failures.
     -Brother didn’t care on any practical front.
     -Friends didn’t want to hear they have no taste.
     -And those who agreed?  Well, I think it’s obvious, they didn’t want to hear my voice in the first place—probably because I wasn’t a very good friend to them (with the exception of that one girl who was just a... nevermind.)

For the more delicate situation, I’ll show my softer side.  Are you one who believes the introductory sentences because someone told you so?

Get over it.

Oops, that wasn’t very nice, was it?

Get over it!  I mean it ;-)

If you don’t already, you should know—you are the only woman or man who actually has a legitimate vote in the matter.  Speak up—no, not literally.  One of the last things I want is for you to go around trumpeting your own praises.

What I do want from you is non-verbal confidence.  Every day make choices that prove to yourself and to the world your own personal value.  How?  What does that look like?

Take care of yourself—exercise, eat healthy foods, have fun with fashion, comb your hair (I’ll be honest; I still don’t always do this, thank goodness for the ponytail!)

Participate in group projects—you have valuable insight simply because it is unique.

Volunteer—whether it’s mentoring your adorable little brother, teaching a freshman Japanese or signing up with a formal program for homeless people in your city, share your value!

Laugh—smile, play, sing!  Have a sense of humor, your life will be better and your friends and family will appreciate it.

Recognize this and live this starting right now—you are worth it.

You are worthy.